Why can’t they show some support! They just like to turn things sour instead sweet! Or did I did anything that offence them? All the while I just keep quite and do my part and why they still always like to make my life miserable!
Izit so hard to show some family support and respect in others decision!
I should expressed it all out here otherwise I felt agitated the entire day until Haylee’s celebration.
Hubby informed (during the beloved’s daughter bday party, 31 July 2009) mil that Haylee’s bday celebration will be held on 9 August 2009, afternoon and ask her favour to invite the relatives since she is the elderly at home. As I have expected what she will say
‘Why hold it in the Hotel, why izit so expensive, why do it in the afternoon, no one will come in the afternoon party as everyone is working even on Sunday’
Mil always think ahead and concern for others. That’s her. Initially I wanted to hold it on Saturday coz nice date :p but I know she will said the same thing. *sian*
That’s on Friday.
Yesterday hubby follow up with mil – ‘Have you invited the relatives’ The answer given by her was totaly really shocking, dissapointing and unbelievable. Mil said
‘I don’t know how to invite, I don’t know how to tell the relatives, I don’t what to say’
Amazing and amusing right! So I was pissed off upon hearing that but as usual I just walk away from the scene and let hubby handle it. Well hubby was rather pissed off too with the answer and he was quite sad with his mother reaction. We felt mil was not happy and did not look forward for her granddaughter 1 year celebration. Well maybe we are not her favourite/priority and we don’t know how to ‘pat her back’ like what the ‘beloved’ is always doing.
During the dining session (Haylee, hubby and me), mil came and ask hubby whether booking fees has been paid or not otherwise just cancel it and book few tables for dinner with close families only. Furthermore, mil said no one will invite relatives to attend and celebrate 1st year bday as the relatives are only invited for full moon celebration only. Mil commented that we always didn’t want to discuss among them and we just do anything we like. Straightaway I walk away with Haylee as I felt its all nuisance and I felt that she is jealous over her ‘beloved’.
Hubby convey the message back to me that, if we hold it in the hotel then no one will turn up for Haylee’s birthday celebration as everyone is busy. No one means the entire family tree as she strongly against this idea. At that moment I thought, I will be so ashamed on that day coz in-laws family didn’t show up and it reflects badly on me and my position in this family. Hubby was not happy either and I feel so sorry for him as his own biological mother didn’t support him.
As a supportive wife (even I’m very frustrated), I told hubby to invite the relatives yourself to show your sincerity and it don’t matter whether they turn up or not – just invite. Even if the relative turn up, surely they ask where is the in-laws and I will tell the truth and will not give face to them since they don’t show support and give face to us. They started it all!
Mil just doesn’t know how to respect others decision and be glad and blessed of what she has. She is a very typical MIL (dictator) who like control the in-laws and like to have the final word and decision in everything.
Even my wedding dinner venue and menu also she want to take control. That’s fine with me even initially I don’t feel comfortable with it as I wanted to hold the ceremony in hotel. Her reason was is for the convinience of the relatives as her ‘beloved’ also hold the ceremony here. Again must follow the beloved.
I hope not all in-laws are dictator! Even I have asked some old lady who has dil; they don’t mind the dil prepare everything and just convey the message and surely they will be supportive and glad. Moreover it’s the young generation time.
I still feel so pissed and disowned.
Anyway the party must go on and no one can fail this wonderful event!
